Becoming resilient requires confronting adversity.
I embrace new challenges, even when success seems unlikely. I know that when I learn from my mistakes, I increase my potential for future successes. I take pride in my ability to recover from missteps.
Each time I stumble, I pick myself up. The more often this occurs, the easier it becomes to recover.
Adversity empowers me.
Enduring through misfortune strengthens my resolve. I become more persistent, my sense of resilience is reinforced. I grow stronger, more confident, and less afraid of the challenges that await me.
Being resilient takes practice and commitment.
Where others find it easy to give up, I now find it difficult to quit. I push through the most difficult obstacles by identifying the possibilities of improvement awaiting me at the end.
I share with others my ability to confront adversity with a positive attitude. As a result, we become a stronger team. Others depend on me for my strength, and I am able to depend on them, too. I am strong on my own, but as a team, we are unstoppable.
Today, I am resilient to adversity. I embrace my failures and learn from them. I gladly take on new obstacles. I feel confident about enlisting the assistance of those around me, so we can face the challenge together.
1. What lessons do I learn from failure?
2. Which character traits improve my ability to be resilient?
3. What is the most difficult part of facing adversity?
We speak about the 20/20 Mindset constantly, well what is it?
We believe that mindset is critical to your success. We created this program to teach you how to get into a growth mindset and to train you on how to keep it.
There are many factors that we must deal with in life and work, some can derail your train of thought or your mindset.
When you have a growing mindset, you learn how to look at failures as opportunities, what could have been done differently, how can it be avoided in the future. You learn how to stay positive, and most importantly you learn how to lead positively amid turmoil, during difficult times a leader must be the light, they must be the ones who push forward and take the team to a positive place in order to continue the success your business needs.
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Is it 20/20?
A quick story…….
When I decided to launch a company that would be able to give back and help others, I realized that the name was one of the most important things.
As we all know I chose VISION. Why? Through my 30-year experience in business, and working with leaders, and managers of all different levels I realized that most lacked VISION.
Where did they want to go? Who and how did they want to mentor? What was the end result? I could list dozens of questions.
I decided I wanted to help bring peoples VISIONS to fruition. To teach and educate them, and assist them in creating it, carrying it out, and watching them succeed.
What’s your VISION? (my favorite question)
November 01st, 2016
Feedback....is it needed? Do I want it?
A little history first
According to Peter Drucker’s book Managing Oneself, feedback was created by a German theologian in the fourteenth century. One of the greatest examples of feedback was the implementation of it by John Calvin, and Ignatius of Loyola who used it with their followers. They both found the Calvinist church and the Jesuit order, which came to dominate Europe in nearly 30 years by using this system to maintain performance and results. Without it they would not of done so especially at the pace in which it was accomplished.
Feedback is an important part of your growth and is also needed for mentoring. The first major company I worked for had feedback embedded in its culture and during the orientation periods was spoken about in length. This was the first time I had experienced feedback at this level and it took some adjusting and understanding to be able to process appropriately.
Below are some steps to assist you in easing into this process whether you are giving or receiving it.
Delivery- This is one of the most important tips to focus on. Body language and tone of voice can absolutely kill your message. To truly deliver feedback appropriately you first must care about the topic and the individual you are delivering it to. If you do it will be easier to deliver the feedback in the right manner. Most individuals don’t react well to being scolded, and we want the feedback accepted to correct the behavior, this is readily accepted if your student knows you are on his or her side.
Remember “never punish a learner “, and feedback is a mechanism to improve and praise performance, if delivered appropriately.
Frequency and Balance- Feedback should be constant, the more feedback the quicker we can achieve the results we are looking for.
This is where balance comes into play though, it’s also our responsibility to ensure that we are not overwhelming our student, each personality is different so you have to manage this and look for signs that we are giving too much. One of these signs is frustration. When evident change up what you are doing.
It’s also important to remember that feedback should be balanced with opportunities as well as what they are excelling in. Let them know when they are great at something, without this balance doubt will set in and that is enough to destroy someone’s confidence.
Acceptance- Conversely we also need to learn how to accept feedback. If we become defensive as we don’t know how to handle being redirected we will frustrate the feedback giver and make them uncomfortable, and it will stop. Receiving feedback is a gift, this is coming from someone that cares enough to help us and teach us. If they stop then we won’t receive any and then our growth stops.
Assuming we receive balanced feedback in the appropriate manner we need to work on our ego and keep it in check as the rewards are far more important.
Till next time,
I finally got promoted, now what?
I will always remember the first time I got the promotion I worked so hard to get. Countless hours at the establishment, missing family functions and other personal sacrifices, all to accomplish my career goals.
Finally the day came, the visit form my superior to tell me I was going to be in charge, the head honcho, the man responsible for the whole operation, needless to say I was extremely excited.
That night I went out to celebrate and had an enjoyable evening with family and friends, but it wasn’t until I got home and sat and relaxed that it hit me, you’re in charge now! The responsibility of this multi-million dollar business, the livelihood of all the team members that worked hard alongside you to get you in this position. Their careers also are now my responsibility to some extent. What am I going to do I thought to myself?
Finally I decided to get a hold of my thoughts and stop the doubt from sinking in. I was going to continue to do what I was doing every day that eventually got me the promotion.
Below are some of the systems and processes that I used.
1) Its lonely at the top- As the leader and head decision maker of your establishment, you carry a huge weight on your shoulders, not all of your decisions or changes will be popular with your staff, but you must do what’s right for your company and people. The end result will be rewarding, it’s just that sometimes it might not feel that way. Stay the course.
2) The Sub- Your subconscious controls a lot of what you do. As a leader you are always trying to grow, working and developing your sub is part of that growth. This plays into your confidence that’s why it’s so important.
3) The three legged stool- People Profits and Operations= Success. Master these three!
4) The team of supporting managers- Setting clear cut goals WITH your VPs and managers is paramount. Ensuring you are all on the same page and know what needs to be accomplished.
5) Build the bench- Developing team members to move up in your company and to support and replace mangers as they get promoted is a huge win. You will never be short staffed in key places and the ones that get promoted are already familiar with the company’s vision and culture and it’s easier to maintain.
6) Hire right- The more energy you put into this the easier life will be. This was always a favorite of mine. Hire Eagles and fire ducks.
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Success is a choice
Doing well in life takes important decision-making. My success is completely dependent on my commitment to achieve meaningful goals.
When I choose to be successful at something, each decision I make is directly tied to achieving that success. I recognize that having the resolve to hit a target means very few things are allowed to get in the way. Above all, no excuses are allowed
My ongoing goal to receive promotions at work is reflected in the effort I put in. The desired result drives me to push harder and work smarter. Some take opportunities to blame others for not achieving their goals, more likely than not these folks don’t get promoted.
When others try to get me to slow down, I ignore them. It is more important to me to remain focused on my desired results. Keeping the end in mind is all I need to maintain consistent effort.
I choose to be successful with my relationships. Even in negative situations, I am committed to working towards a positive resolution that can strengthen our relationship.
I do my best to nurture my friendships. Feeding positivity into relationships is a conscious step towards ensuring they remain successful. The longevity of those unions is directly related to daily maintenance of them.
Today, I expect success because I make a conscious choice to achieve it. I commit to an ongoing effort to realize my victories. My path remains clear because I avoid letting obstacles distract me.
Training your brain through repetition is imperative. Your sub conscious controls more than you think. You need to write down positive thoughts about yourself and read them daily in order to make your sub reverse itself. Remember 28 days to change habits so start today!
1. How does positive thinking help me to courageously go after difficult goals?
2. Are there external factors that influence how I measure my success?
3. How can I make daily choices that lead me toward my goal?
Till next time,
Life and Business Coach
September 02nd, 2016
Life as we know it has changed dramatically through the years.
I was born in July of 1968, and I grew up during the development of this life changing technology, cell phones, social media, flat screen TVs etc. that we are all accustomed too.
Gone are the days of a household watching a console TV on the floor as the family gathers to watch Dick Van Dyke. We now hang them on the walls, and yes I said them as one isn't enough anymore we have placed TVs in all of our bedrooms, kitchens and yes I've even seen them in bathrooms!
I often remember the days when we needed a dime to use a pay phone and nowadays you cant even find one, due to most of us having cellphones, besides the added bill they caused initially I felt it was convenient and traveled well.
Once you could access the internet on them and gain access to apps it all changed. Now trying to have a conversation with someone is difficult, I you need to time your questions at the opportune moment or else you have to continuously repeat yourself due to their not paying attention as they scroll through social media, play a video game on the go or surf the net.
I see family when I'm out to eat and all of them including parents are playing with their phones and not even conversing.
I feel the old adage " A family that dines together stays together" needs to be changed to " A family that dines together with no electronics stays together.
The level of childhood addiction is frightening, it seems that as soon as a child turns two they have an IPAD shoved in their faces and the addiction takes off from there.
There is a reason that Steve Jobs did not let his children use them. If that's not enough to tell you something is wrong I don't know what will.
Till next time
Organization plagues many a soul. Why? Well there are several reasons but the one excuse I hear most often is “I don’t have any time”.
During my early professional years I to was unorganized and always behind. I found myself working extra hours and days trying to stay ahead and of course that cut into my personal life.
Once this pattern starts it usually leads to stress, job depreciation, and problems at home. As most of us don’t want any of these issues we still delay in trying to fix and control what we can and we end up staying on the hamster wheel never making any ground.
What I’ve found is getting organized is a choice and you have to want it! If you read my previous post on change and all of the steps in it you might find some of this familiar.
Do you really want to get organized? Ask yourself and answer honestly, are you in the contemplation step?
Here are a few ways to assist you.
Write things down
Although this seems obvious if you monitor yourself closely you’ll see a few, if not many opportunities in this area.
This is the first area of focus for me whenever I am developing someone, do they take notes, what kind of note taking, is there any system for prioritizing them?
There have been countless times that I have seen people show up at a meeting with nothing to write on, or a piece of loose paper that would get lost afterward, typically these are the ones that cannot stay organized, accomplish goals, or you hear the excuse” I forgot”.
Your note taking should have a summary at the end of each session, you must organize and prioritize all that you need to, as well as integrate these with your existing work schedule, goals and priorities.
You should also have a pocket form of note taking so that you are always prepared to jot down an idea as it comes to you or to be ready for an impromptu conversation.
You also want to integrate these at the end of the day into your main note taking book.
You must set up time to write out a schedule to ensure you have ample time to complete tasks and achieve goals. When setting up your schedule make sure you have deadlines for each task so that you can get them completed in a timely fashion.
The great Andrew Grove said schedule an hour a day of free time to be able to deal with unexpected scenarios, if there are none then use this time to get ahead.
Ill reiterate that wanting to be organized takes work and a lot of it, but you will see that you have more free time and you will feel more accomplished as you will get more done. Start the discipline of writing out daily tasks and stick to it, remember it takes 28 days to create a habit.
You are not alone in this, I work with many professionals that struggle in this area and they make improvements daily.
Feel free to contact me if you’d like to hire a Life or Business coach to assist you in this
Change?? What is that?
The ability to change, or not has always been intriguing to me. Change can be one of the most difficult things to do even if it’s beneficial for us, so I decided to research some of the difficulties, benefits, and types of change we might experience.
Types of Change
Permanent Change- Some changes have an all in effect on your life, i.e. having a baby is going to change your life without question.
Change of Habit- This is a choice change that can better your life by making a positive change or you could also make a choice to change habits for the worse.
Behavioral Change- Maybe you want to be friendlier or work on your temper.
Cognitive Change- You want to change thoughts to be more positive and less worrisome.
Although there are other types these four are the most interesting to me.
Being a Coach we are typically dealing with people that want to better their lives and that involves change on some level.
In my experience and most Coaches, we see that our first objective is to find out if our client actually wants change. Many times a client might have been urged by a spouse or a business partner to pursue change but the client is not ready or doesn't buy in to wanting it.
In these cases we can’t help in achieving this change.
Below are the five stages of change:
1. Precontemplation- In this stage your client has not truly identified any need to change.
They are overweight and don't go to the gym or watch their diets, and ignore any derogatory health reports.
2. Contemplation- At this stage your client is weighing the Pros and Cons of making change and is aware that their unhealthy diet is contributing to their weight problem.
3. Preparation-This is where our client is ready to make the change and is ready to establish a plan and get to work.
4. Action-The concrete behavior takes place, our client is actively going to the gym and gaining excitement.
5. Maintenance- To me this stage is often over looked and critical, you must plan to maintain and keep your momentum going. Many times we allow things to get us off track like, vacations, holidays etc.
It’s important to find out where your client is in these five stages, or you won’t be able to help them, in fact if they are in the first stage it’s unlikely you will be able to help at all.
Embracing change seems to be easier said than done, we are confronted with, fear of discomfort, will it work? But avoiding it can stunt you from learning new things, your life will not move forward, the longer you wait the harder it gets, you also stop your growth as a person.
We must be aware of our emotions and plan for the change we want and need, stick to the plan and work on removing any negative or challenging thoughts that might creep up to derail you.
Embrace the change and be all you can be!!!!!
Life nowadays is about getting things done quickly, as we have less time to complete things in a timely manner. Microwave ovens, streaming movies, and cell phones perpetuate this lifestyle, and help move us along. However, personal development is more effective when done slowly. Significant changes take time. It’s also about the journey. The process of changing can be more meaningful than the benefits gained by the change.
It takes 28 days to create a habit, imagine how long it takes to change or eliminate one!
Why personal development takes time:
Instead of looking for the quick fix, search for strategies that require effort and commitment. Relish the fact that you’re changing your life and putting in the work to make it happen. Success is easier than you think, because so few people can keep a long-term perspective. Win the personal development race by being the tortoise.
Change is not only good it’s needed in life so that we can continue to better ourselves. Too often I work with clients that wave the flag and say: “I Can’t”. The negative effects from this word are insurmountable to overcome and as soon they enter our mind we fail at a 92% rate.
One word is all it takes to allow our minds to give in. Practice to eliminate it and strengthen your mind.
All the best,
Coach in training